In less than 3 minutes a day, you can do an exercise that:
It’s a powerful exercise to improve your sex life. And best of all, you can do it while…
Hell, I’m doing them while writing this.
They’re called “kegel exercises,” or “pelvic floor exercises,” and adding a few minutes of them into your daily routine will open you up to an new world of improved male sexual health.
Before we can get started, you need to locate your “Pubococcygeus muscle,” or “pelvic floor muscles,” which is the muscle you’ll be flexing in order to last longer, orgasm harder, and orgasm without ejaculating.
Until you find this PC muscle, you won’t be able to do kegel exercises or reap any of the benefits.
Here’s how to find it:
Got it? Good.
Doing kegel exercises is just a matter of flexing that muscle multiple times, for different durations.
As the PC muscle gets stronger you’ll be able to hold for longer and more intensely, which will in turn make it easier to control your ejaculation as you reap the other benefits of kegeling.
Now if you don’t want to get too complicated with it, you can just train them with some easy exercises like this:
And then increase the duration, or the number of reps, each time one of the squeezes gets too easy. The last set should feel difficult, like you’re not going to be able to hold for the whole time.
Doing the three different types is important because one of them will help the most (it varies person to person) with helping you stop ejaculating or having multiple orgasms.
Some people have the most luck with a long hold, some with a few shorter ones, and some people with a bunch of really fast ones.
So just do those every day, and slowly increase the duration and intensity.
This was the game changer for me in actually doing my kegel exercises. Having an app remind me every day to keep doing them, and being told exactly how long to do it for, made the training 10x easier.
And since you “level up” in the app, you’ll have an idea of how much stronger your PC muscles are getting. I noticed a big improvement in control over my ejaculation around level 8, and level 10 was when it started getting particularly easy to orgasm without ejaculating.
Start with 3 times a day if you can, and then slow down to twice or once as the muscles get stronger. Just like in a real gym, the more you train the muscles, the more they need to rest.
Now that you’ve started strengthening your PC muscle, it’s time to reap the benefits.
Like I mentioned at the beginning, kegel exercises can help you beat premature ejaculation, avoid erectile dysfunction, orgasm more intensely, and ejaculate multiple times.
Here’s how to take advantage of each one:
To last longer in bed now, all you need to do is take a few seconds to squeeze your PC muscles as hard as possible using one of the three “speeds” I talked about before anytime you feel like you’re getting too close to orgasming.
Squeezing your PC muscles like this will slow you down and bring you back from the peak, letting you continue having sex, getting head, etc. without worrying about ejaculating. To help in the beginning, you can let your partner know what you’re doing so that he or she gives you a second to squeeze your pelvic muscles.
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To orgasm more intensely, all you need to do is get to the point of orgasm and then start squeezing your PC muscle to delay the ejaculation as long as possible.
Not only will this make the orgasm last longer, it will also make it much more intense when it does happen.
Finally, you can use a strong PC muscle to prevent yourself from ejaculating while still orgasming.
All it requires is squeezing hard enough right at the point of no return to prevent the ejaculation, while still experiencing the effects of orgasming. It takes some practice, but once you have it down, you can easily orgasm multiple times in a session before you ejaculate.
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